Speak up.

If you like someone, tell them. If you love someone, make sure they know of your feelings. If you messed up, apologize. If you have something to say, scream it on the top of your lungs so they will understand. By default, humans rarely ever say the things they want to. Most of the time (about 98%), the statement you hear will most likely be an “edited” version or one that will not accommodate any truth to it at all. The brain of a human is like a premium filter that stops the truth from coming out of a person’s mouth. Because we often do not speak up and tell people how we really feel, we loose so many amazing opportunities. We make mistakes by stupidly assuming the truth. And we often let good things pass by because we’re too afraid to actually speak up. So next time when you’re feeling conflicted in anyway, make sure to let everything go and let others know where exactly it is that you stand. 

Love is…

Kind. Patient. Beautiful. Spectacular. Incredible. Heart warming. Alluring. Faithful. Pleasing. Thrillful. Hope. Inspiring. Romantic. Adventurous. Overwhelming. Fantastic. Undefinable. It is waking up to the person you can’t live without and it is dreaming about someone who you’d rather die than not being able to live with. Love have the tendency to tear people apart yet it also have the power to bring people together. Love is beautiful in it’s natural element but if misused, remember that there is a thin line between love and hate. Love is a feeling, a connection, an attraction towards an object that you have a deep longing for. But if it is mistreated with disrespect, violence, lies, jealousy, and neglect, love can turn into pain, sadness, and dread. Love is a wondrous thing that transpire between two individuals. Remember to never take it for granted or give up once you know the feeling of love.

Love hurts, yes. But in order to fall in love, mustn’t you first feel the pain? You can’t possibly walk without falling, you can’t possible run without tripping, you can’t possibly win without loosing, so never expect to love without hurting. Love and hurt comes together in a packaged deal. Love grant you the power of flying through thin air and hurt is the paperweight that keeps you grounded when you’re about to loose control. This relationship between love and hate is a one-sided mirror however because you cannot love without hurting but you definitely can hurt without loving.
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Some say that the best part of the relationship is the chase. It is the time where one would try their hardest to impress the one they’re interested in. This is the stage of infatuation; liking someone more than you really do. It is the stage of daily morning/goodnight texts, corny jokes, and late night phone calls. It is the stage of planning, making promises for the future that may or may not come true. It is the the stage of preparation. It is the stage of hope. It is the stage that would secure your place in someone’s life for the near future. Many people believe that this is the best part of the relationship due to the feeling of excitement plus the element of surprise. It’s fun learning about someone for it is like trying to figure out a an unsolved puzzle. The mystery is what pulls us in.

One day, you will find that one person who will be veraciously and completely in love with you. They will hold you by the hands, kiss you on the lips, and do whatever it is that lovers do. Their biggest fear would be waking up to finding you gone and they will treasure you as if you’re the last breathe of oxygen inside a world that needs to breath. But until that one person comes, you must spend most of your time searching for them; your other half. And on the way, the chances of your heart breaking will be as high as a hundred Empire State Buildings…but you know it’s all worth it at the end because you’ll finally have someone to ensure your heart to.

The hardest part is moving on.

Not only are you forced to forget all the good times you’ve had with that person, you are also expected to act like complete strangers as soon as the other person pass by, knowing that they don’t carry the same feelings for you any longer. Even though the love is still there, you are bind to keep those feelings hidden for it’s only you who still wants to be together. As time passes, things get easier. Until you see the one you still love, laughing with someone else that is not you. Moving on is definitely the hardest part of a relationship, especially when it’s one where you didn’t want it to end. But that’s what happens; people show interests, they play with you, they get bored, then they move on even though you’re not ready for them to leave.

Young love.

Admit it, when you’re young and in love, you think you’ve got it all figured out. You think that the person you’re with will forever be with you and nothing will be able to break your bond. With them, you dream about your “picketed-fence” future, making plans and naming your children. When you’re young and in love, you believe that you are basically invincible. That nothing will ever go wrong ‘cause love is all you need. You never presume the unexpected — like pregnancy — because you deem yourself as “responsible” and “knowledgeable”. If anyone disapprove, you’d automatically become defensive and jump at their throats for opposing your relationship. Although love can undoubtedly make you feel indomitable, you do not realize how much work you need to put into a relationship to make it last. Most of the time, you overestimate yourself and that only results in a sudden heartbreak.

Ever have that moment when you feel like you’re just not good enough? Like everything you do is completely worthless and a waste of time? Like you’re perfectly and utterly replaceable to the next person that comes along? In that moment, you start to think about the people who actually cares about you. You starts to wonder what the people around you would do if you make a mistake. Would they be there for you through thick and thin or would they leave you hanging on that falling piece of string? In that moment - that minuscule part of time - all your bad thoughts aggregate together to haunt you. You’d start feeling unsure about yourself, about everything and everyone. You’d start to second guess and as you fall deeper into the trap, your insecurity increases. In that moment, the moment when you feel perfectly inconsequential, the wall that some people have been trying to knock down grows back up again.

Love is the antitheses of selfishness.

‘Cause in order to love, one must learn how to be selfless. They must know how to give up their own happiness for someone else’s if needed be. They must be able to put someone else completely above them; To see that person as an equal yet treat them as a king/queen. Love is never about taking. It is giving someone your affections and not asking for anything in return. If it’s meant to be, then that person will reciprocate those feelings. But if not, take pride in the fact that you’ve loved at all.

Settling down.

For some people, it’s the hardest thing in the world. Most likely it’s because those people are expecting for something better to come along. They don’t believe that what they have now is enough, so they wait it out to look for something better. A lot of times however, those people are simply foolish for amid their road to find something better, they often leave behind everything else that was once important in their life. Everyone thinks that they deserve better. Maybe they do. Maybe they don’t. Just remember this: never throw away your past for something that is simply “better,” for you might actually lose the best things in your life. For those who have already settled down, they either know that their partner is everything they’ve always wanted, or they’re too scared/impatient to wait any longer.